"Choosing"

Some people know the term "choosing" in a context where the person choosing is doing so for selfish reasons. I'm here to tell you today that in a way you are being selfish but you should also be aware of the value of your own time and energy and also of who/what you allow to surround you. Believe it or not, the people and things you surround yourself with do have an effect on you and your life. With that being said, it is fairly easy to see who chooses you again and again in your own life. It's more than picking a mate over another potential one but this really goes into every type of friendship/relationship. It's a sense of connection but also a manifestation of genuine acts coming from a legitimate part in them where they hold you dear and appreciate you. People who choose you will go out of their way and always consider you and your feelings maybe even before their own.

My dad always told me growing up as a teenager to watch what people do because actions speak louder than words. What you do in your private time and how you carry yourself around others definitely plays a part in identifying what you're really like on the inside...even though...I, personally, try to only say what I mean and stick to my word. But you will be surprised how many people say one thing and turn around to do another. With that being said, you have to train your eye to identify who really cares about you. Observe others' actions in relation to you. Are they wanting you to give and give, but are never trying to give back to you? Does this person really have your best interest at heart or are they more worried about themselves?

The one point I really wanted to make about this topic was that no matter how much you like someone, don't over exert yourself chasing them and getting nothing in return. A lot of times, people get played like this because they let their adoration or love for someone blind them from the real. Don't let anyone take advantage of you. Know that you/your time is precious and valuable. If the relationship or friendship is not mutual in the give and take, you should choose yourself and lose that person.